It still doesn’t make what Strahan did, right. He should have to pay somehow. People are disgusting today with their morals and they just get away with it!

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I will try to be as breif as possible. I figured out that I was gay 9 years into my marriage. I told her and she kicked me out and kept everything. She got a boy friend with in a year and he moved in. We have 2 children that has not become a problem yet. We have been separated for almost 5 yrs. I pay almost $1000 in child support and over $200 in spousal. I had cancer this year and was on disability for 8 mos. I lost everything in the process. Because I am gay, she wants me to suffer and pay for her for the rest of her life. I have tried to fight the support (not child support) and everytime I do I get nailed for more. I am paying $1250 a mo. now because of arrears when I was sick. It leaves me with less than $800 to live on. I have gave up 2 meals a day to survive and no one cares.

There must be something I can do. It has been almost 2 years since I filed for divorce. Even the judge at the support hearing we were at said that he didn’t understand why it hasn’t gone through yet and he wanted to know if he could help.

I claimed bankruptcy right after the separation and all bills were included. She owed nothing, not even a gas bill. I can prove that. All the calculations made are from her expenses now. We didn’t own the house and paid $400 rent. After she got the house given to her from her mom, she took a loan against it and can’t even afford the yearly taxes. She has dug herself a hole expects me to cover all her new loans and bills. These have all been done way after the separation by her and her boyfriend. He has live there for 4 years and at least a year without a job on my money.

I was going to turn her in for her sewer which would cost her $15,000, but that would make her have to sell the house and I don’t want that for the kids. I don’t need to get charged harrassment.

I just need her scared into signing. There are no assets.

I have no money and am about to lose my apartment. What can I do to force her into the divorce? I know that she can’t get the alimony because of him living there after she signs, but she knows that to.

I won’t get into a long diatribe about how unfairly and alarmingly high CS awards are nowadays or the reality that family & divorce court are tilted heavily in favor of mothers.

What I will take exception to is the contention that child support is intended to cover the basic needs of the children. It’s not. I assure you that when I was married, it didn’t cost nearly as much annually as my child support payments would suggest for “the basic needs of the children.”

The reality is that it is a redistribution of wealth from the higher earning individual to the lower earning individual. Typically, only a fraction of what is often awarded in CS is necessary to cover the basic needs of the children.

Don’t believe me? Why is it that the average “costs for the basic needs” of a foster child average about $7,000 annual across the United States, but CS awards for many middle and upper income families for a single child can be quite substantially higher than that?

Two different rules for the same situations. The rules are in place to benefit the states who are obscenely incentivized financially to impose and keep CS judgements as high as possible… usually to the detriment of a father who likely barely has any meaningful time with the children as it is.

Even in 50/50 situation, I still pay child support to the ex-wife… who makes well in excess of the average income in the state/country and could easily handle the basic needs of the children on her own income if I didn’t exist (and trust me, she tried to make sure I didn’t exist in the children’s lives). However, I make a bit more and the rules says that “the child is entitled” to the same standard of income as if the parents were still together.

Well, when the parents were still together, there weren’t two homes, two sets of utilities, two sets of insurances… etc.

It’s primarily income redistribution of which, the actual needs of the children happen to be a part of.

Reality.

Do you do criminal defense? Is that your blog too? And I was looking for your picture but couldn’t find it….I do like your blog very much, it is informative and entertaining.

“I’d rather my child get a beating from me than from the overseer!”